Sunday, April 12, 2009
Love Your Yourself!
When deciding what to post today, I decided against another episode of The Neurotic Writer. It just didn't seem appropriate for Easter. I got to thinking about my life and the lives of my writing friends and realized we are some of the hardest working people I know. In fact, one writer on one of my loops is giving up writing for awhile because she felt like she had been neglecting precious opportunities while waiting for New York to buy one of her manuscripts. Another friend felt guilty when we spent the morning and evening out playing. She thought she should be working on her book. I decided Easter Sunday, a day of remembering how much we are loved, is the perfect time to reflect and make change. In other words, to take time to love ourselves as well. This is not selfish; it is a necessity to lead a happy life.
I had to take about six months off from writing novels because I had burned myself out, so I am speaking from first hand experience here. We need to find a balance. First, we need to take an honest look at our lives. Are you taking care of yourself? I recently began an exercise program, but I know I don't get enough sleep, so that is going to be my new goal. What steps do you need to take to be physically healthier?
Next, are you your own worst critic? I know I am. Take a moment to think about the parts of your personality you like. Are you a good friend? Do you compliment others? Are you a glass half full type of person? This is the hard part. Think about something you like physically about yourself. I like the color of my eyes. They are green with gold specks - darker than hazel. Not many people have my eye color. Feeling a little better about yourself? Good. Now for the next part. Reflect on all of the blessings you have in your life. Make a list if you like. When you stay in a positive, happy mood as much as possible you invite more good into your life. I've also discovered that happiness is contagious and other people around you will take steps to improve their lives as well. You are passing it forward. How great is that?!
Now, tell someone how much they mean to you. You'll improve the connections you have with the people around you. When our time comes to an end, we are not going to worry about a manuscript we didn't finish. Schedule time for your writing, but do not let it take over your life. If there is something you always wanted to do, then make time for that experience. When I was in my late twenties, I decided I wanted to learn to do ceramics, take horseback riding lessons, learn Spanish (I tried), and learn to play the piano (wasn't my thing). I am so glad I gave all of that a try. Later, I dabbled at oil painting, and then I finally learned to write novels. Lead a well-rounded life and you will be happier. When you are happier, so are the people around you.
So, remember to...
Be thankful for all of the good in your life.
Pat yourself on the back!
Pat others on the back!
Tell someone you love them!
Count your blessings!
Posted by Tina Swayzee McCright at 3:53 PM