The holiday spirit is all about giving. Although I cannot afford to buy all of you the most popular electronic device on the market, I can pass along something I have found to be much more valuable: words of wisdom given to me by others. These words have made a big difference in my life.
#1 - My grandmother once said, "When you don't know what to do, do nothing at all." I found this gives time for more info to come my way, which helps me make a decision.
#2 – A teacher I work with once said, “When I have a bad day, I tell my husband I am going to tell him a story and when I’m done I want him to tell me he is sorry I had a bad day.” By telling him exactly what she needs from him, he doesn’t need to read her mind and everyone is happy. I have had some amazing results using this advice.
#3 – A writing friend brought the DVD of The Secret to one of our meetings. What I took away from it changed my life. I now focus on what I am grateful for as much as possible – I am a much happier person. I also focus on what I want my life to look like in all areas and I find I channel my energy in that direction. I believe it is pretty much the power of positive thinking.
If you want to read more universal laws like The Law of Attraction, read Quantum Success by Sandra Anne Taylor.
#4 – Recently a writing friend suggested I read Paul Harvey’s book, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man. I found I instinctively already knew what he had to say but it brought it to a conscious level. Anyone dating should read it and so should any woman who needs to know her man shows his love by Professing, Providing, and Protecting. Great book!
#5 – This was the best teaching advice I got but it also works at home. Harry Wong said, “Don’t do anything you can get a kid do.” As teachers and parents, we have full schedules. The more we take on the more rundown we feel. If your students or children can take on a task, than they should, especially if it is something you know they should do for themselves in the first place. Just remember there are child labor laws.
#6 - While lounging around the pool with a group of teachers, one shared a bit of wisdom she heard from a TV psychologist: a person will often tell you their biggest flaw in the first conversation. Those of us who were divorced realized it was true. Now I listen carefully. When a man says he is afraid of marriage, etc. I take that to be his truth and I don’t dismiss it or take it lightly.
#7 – I once heard, “However your spouse treats you is how your children are going to feel it is okay to be treated.” I also believe how you react to the way people treat you is how your children learn to react in those situations. As a teacher in a high-risk area, I know this to be true.
#8 – Count your blessings! We have all heard that one. No matter how bad your situation may seem at any given moment we do have blessings to be grateful for. Count them, pay attention to them, feel good about them, and soon more will come your way.
I hope all of you have a wonderful 2010 filled with more blessings than you can count!
Until next week,